While nobody knows us like our parents, even though friends come a close second, mothers are a whole different league because they just know everything.
So, it is no different when it comes to getting you married. Even while you shy away or just ignore it, she is always looking out for you, and even tries to set you up with somebody when the time is right.
“It’s all part of the mom magic, really”, says Shagufta Ali, matchmaking expert at Muzz, a muslim-first matchmaking app. “They’re like the behind-the-scenes masterminds of your love life, connecting dots, making suggestions, and being your secret cheerleader.”
While it was physically checking for matches earlier, they are now even taking the time out to understand your matches online, and even accepting your choices but not without giving their approval wholeheartedly.
Here are five ways Ali says mothers know what`s best for you:
1. From arranged to online: Mama’s making a shift
Remember when finding a rishta meant a million aunties, uncle’s networks, and seriously awkward family dinners? Well, things have changed. Today’s generation is chatting, and connecting through digital platforms, but without giving up those family values. While you go out and find your partner, a small thank you to mothers who got on board and let us mix tradition with independence.
2. The unofficial love gurus
No one gives better relationship advice than mom (even if she’s constantly asking if you`re “seeing anyone special”). Whether it`s about handling heartbreak, learning the art of compromise, or simply figuring out how to handle the awkward “meet the family” moment, moms have seen it all. They’ve been through the ups and downs themselves and their wisdom is gold, even if it comes with a sprinkle of overprotectiveness.
3. The power of ‘Mom-Approved’
Here’s the thing, when looking for a partner, “Mom-Approved” seal of approval is what really counts. Finding the right person is great, but the true test is when mom meets them and gives her nod of approval (or the dreaded side-eye). Whether it’s a traditional or more modern approach, the goal is always the same: finding a match that feels right, and moms just want to see that you’re happy and supported in your journey.
4. Moms just want you to find love… safely
One thing that will never change: moms always want the best for you, especially when it comes to your love life. With the rise of everything online, and so much hearsay, they may be a little cautious. They’re also ready to embrace matchmaking apps, if it means their kids can find love safely. Luckily, tech has their back. With privacy features and non-identity disclosure, the young generation is exploring independence and secured rishtas, while moms can rest easy knowing their kids are in a safe space.
5. The rishta that lasts
Here’s the magic formula: it’s possible to give your kids the freedom to choose their own partner, while still being a part of the process. What if both independence and mom’s involvement could work together? A modern rishta isn`t an isolated process, it’s about building trust, giving autonomy, and creating a space where both sides come together, naturally. After all, a happy middle ground is the best place to find a rishta that lasts.
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